". . . By contrast, the contemporary spirit is to get revenge on the people and places that offend you by working remotely for their destruction. Don’t actually speak to them, don’t actually complain, don’t actually risk your sense of self in the (misplaced) hope that they will fix it. Speak about them, complain to others, make the solution both obvious and unworkable, and bask in the affirmation of your peers. . . ." Christians have recieved marching orders -- sad when we will not use them it's disastrous. (Matthew 5:23, 18:15)
In someways I think we do need both in person and online addressing of issues, although no in cases where there was a reasonable solution addressed.
But I think in cases like large figures that are highly toxic, addressing them individually is fine, but at some point, you do need to bring others in.
But online only isn't going to ever help, because most of the world just isn't online in a way to hear about many toxic leaders. And many are highly insulated because they are very large fish in very small ponds. And only addressing in person does not allow for others to hear of problems outside of the local community, and we know that local church communities often banish people that complain about legitimate issues.
I think you are right about the generational tendencies. But I think we really need both, done with the right purpose, not one or the other, and neither done with bad motives.
Fantastic insights!!
I recommend a good read: How to help people change - Dr. Jay Adams
This was really helpful. I'm passing it along to my 17-yr-old who is just now beginning to tip-toe into the social media world.
How many of either generation would ask to speak to a Manager to compliment service or quality? I wonder if the ratios would be the same.
". . . By contrast, the contemporary spirit is to get revenge on the people and places that offend you by working remotely for their destruction. Don’t actually speak to them, don’t actually complain, don’t actually risk your sense of self in the (misplaced) hope that they will fix it. Speak about them, complain to others, make the solution both obvious and unworkable, and bask in the affirmation of your peers. . . ." Christians have recieved marching orders -- sad when we will not use them it's disastrous. (Matthew 5:23, 18:15)
In someways I think we do need both in person and online addressing of issues, although no in cases where there was a reasonable solution addressed.
But I think in cases like large figures that are highly toxic, addressing them individually is fine, but at some point, you do need to bring others in.
But online only isn't going to ever help, because most of the world just isn't online in a way to hear about many toxic leaders. And many are highly insulated because they are very large fish in very small ponds. And only addressing in person does not allow for others to hear of problems outside of the local community, and we know that local church communities often banish people that complain about legitimate issues.
I think you are right about the generational tendencies. But I think we really need both, done with the right purpose, not one or the other, and neither done with bad motives.